We at times can find ourselves in a negative cycle, negative thought process, or just generally do not feel a sense of hope.
The beliefs that lead us to a sense of hopelessness are a part of the things we carry, metaphorically. Like a well-worn backpack filled with items that are personal to us, we often travel through life with beliefs, ideas, and convictions which weigh us down. Our belief system is meant to guide our actions and ideas– but at times, our beliefs can grab us and keep us unmoving, stuck, paralyzed, even by a narrative that may not even be based on truth.
So while we may not be able to accelerate our time of transition, in what ways can we change our perspective to give us a sense of stability or to have a grounding effect? We’ll discuss this in my latest episode, “The Things We Carry“.
This episode includes a visualization exercise that may help you see yourself setting aside anything that does not help you move forward on your journey in life.
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Having a bedtime, having a consistent schedule for meals, and being mindful of one’s digestive functions are all things parents are mindful of for their children.
Some of the things parents do for their children are actually paramount for adults, too.
A child benefits greatly and even thrives from a healthy routine, because it provides stability, and it also makes it obvious when things are not quite right, and may need further examination.
We too need the stability that comes from routine, especially with regards to sleep.
If you’re having trouble with sleep, there are a number of things you can do to get more sleep, and to get more sleep more often.
One really effective habit of mine is to set a bed time alarm. I have it set for about 20-30 minutes before I would like to be in bed, which alerts me to start shutting down what I am doing and getting prepared. If you have an iPhone, there is already an inherent feature that works this way for you when you set your bedtime alarm.
It’s also important to get back to sleep when you wake up in the middle of the night.
Our tendency is to reach for the phone, and either obsess over how late it is and how tired we will be in the morning, or to start browsing through social media apps. Neither are effective for settling in and resting. Try instead turning on ambient sound, deep breathing exercises, or making adjustments that help your body temperature (i.e. what you’re wearing, turning on a fan, trying a different blanket).
Sometimes after a very long day, we need a little help winding down.
I wrote this sleep story (mostly because my nephew requested it) with a full night’s rest in mind. The story will be fun to share with kids, but suitable for all ages.
As we get closer and closer to manifesting our dreams and hopes, the pain and weight feels nearly unbearable. What can we do to optimize our time and see the benefits of waiting– benefits that outweigh the pain? I discuss in this episode.
We all know to protect our brains from physical trauma, but how often do we protect our minds? Why is it that we screen television for children saying that their eyes and ears are too sensitive, but as adults we do nothing to filter things that may upset us? While we cannot live in a bubble and some things cannot be avoided, I’m giving you some tips of being for mindful about your mental wellness on a daily basis.
This episode of the Wonderfully Made Podcast is about the beauty of high pressure situations. We’ve all had times when we are under pressure and though it is difficult, what it yields can be beautiful and worth the pain or discomfort. I want to help you think about the benefits you gain from tough situations that in all honesty—we can’t usually avoid.
What high pressure situation exists for you that if you completely endure it will yield something beautiful or advantageous? Think about it.
I am thinking of you. There are a lot of things that stress people out or get them down this time of year. It can be a rough time if we do nothing to combat the stress, anxiety and sadness– I know this personally. I am going to share 4 quick ways to boost your mood. I want you to have a wonderful and productive day.
Go for a quick walk. Walking will give you an opportunity to stretch your legs, get fresh air, and get your heart pumping. Hormones which are helpful for boosting your mood are released when you exercise, but it does not have to be intense exercise. If you work in an office environment, it can be especially helpful to get outside and change your scenery. Even 5 minutes can make a difference.
Talk to a friend or loved one. Though you may need to vent or commiserate, the choice is up to you. What tone/topic will best help you move forward with your day and leave on a positive note? Try sending someone a nice note to let them know you love and appreciate them and that you’re thinking of them. Reminders like this will help them and you! Life is too short not to tell the special people in your life that they are special and it is amazing how this simple act can give us perspective and make us more grateful.
Listen to upbeat or inspiring music. The type of music will vary person to person, but music can really help. I never leave home without a pair of earbuds so that I can listen to music or even a podcast when I’m on the go or stuck waiting in line somewhere. This little trick can be especially helpful when you’re waiting and finding yourself becoming frustrated or impatient. There are duties we have which we cannot avoid, but a little music to lift the spirits can help. The music is also nice if you do not like the current ambient noise where you are, which could be causing you agitation or the inability to concentrate.
Eat a snack. Yes, eat something! As your blood sugar drops low, your mood will as well. Make sure you bring snacks wherever you go so that you do not find yourself with low energy and crankiness. I love to pack fun and interesting snacks like the ones in my video on quick and easy snack ideas, but if all else fails– an apple or a banana will hold me over for about an hour.
Can you think of a situation where you panicked? Or, maybe someone you know or were depending on panicked. What was the result?
We go through unexpected circumstances in our lives at times that give us reason to lose our cool. Falling into a panic stricken response is literally the worst thing you can do. I’m going to share some situations where I felt the urge to panic and then give you some tips for keeping a clear head when you find yourself in tough situations.
I took a break from business and social media for about two weeks and many of you have wondered why. First, let me say the concerned messages, snaps, emails and tweets mean so much to me. It is so easy to get caught up being a spectator on social media that we lose the intimacy and personal touch of real communication. Some of you are near, some are far– but always close to my heart. You’re my pals.
I took a break because I lost a family member, and I’m sure you will understand when I say– no one can really fully be prepared. It was sudden, and I just felt like a bunch of time was just snatched from me. I love my family dearly and I do spend a lot of time with them–but it’s never enough. I assumed I had time. Have you been there? You think of something a person you love would enjoy and you think “I’ll take them here one day” or “I’ll share this with them tomorrow”. You just never know how long you really have…
What made this both easy and difficult at the same time was the fact that every single person I would normally go to for comfort was hurting just like I was. In this time we have leaned closer together, bearing one another up and showering each other with love. I have just felt like– this is private– this is a family thing and no one else will understand what I need right now.
Grieving is a process and there’s no set time for how long it will take for you to reach a point of closure. I at first felt shocked, then sad, then a deeper form of devastation. It happened just 5 days before my birthday, and when I thought of that I felt like not celebrating at all. My cousin who is also one of my best friends said, “No. You celebrate with your friends and you celebrate with us, your family. He would have wanted you to celebrate life. Especially at a time like this.” She was right.
It felt wonderful to be surrounded by friends, and my birthday fell on Easter this year so it also just felt like I was closer to God.
A few things I’ve learned about grieving, anxiety and depression that may help you or someone you know.
Be honest. Don’t try to cover up the pain so much that you avoid it altogether. It isn’t healthy, and it doesn’t promote healing.
Eat well. Our inclination may be for fast, easy, comforting foods– but just make sure they promote life. Bad food will sink you further into depression.
Get out and enjoy nature. The day I walked to the beach and breathed in the salty sea air and watched the sunset, I felt so grateful and so alive.
Seek therapy. There are counselors who can help you work through your grief, depression or anxiety. You may not be able to simply “shake it off”.
Sleep more.This can be a very exhausting time, and sleep is a way to repair and heal. It can help restore your immune system and clear your head as well.
Know yourself. Do you need to be alone? Do you need to be around people? Don’t do it for others, do it for you. If you get around a crowd and that overwhelms you, leave. Don’t feel guilty about it.
Tell the people who matter. Talk to your close friends and family, your boss, and whomever may be affected by your change of pace.
Get lost in good music or a book. You don’t have to dwell on your troubles all day long. You’re allowed to escape as needed.
Be around children. They are so sensitive, sweet, and full of joy. Being around my niece and nephew was awesome. Not that I’m comparing children to animals, but being around animals is also very soothing!
There are no rules. Just remember– everyone responds differently. Don’t judge yourself!