Celebration and Enjoying the Arts

Wow, it’s May! Time has flown in 2016. The older I get, the more I say that. I’ve been super busy, so we will be taking a quick time travel back to the end of March when I celebrated my birthday. It was low key, but so much fun. A small group of friends met me at the Getty Villa and then we followed with yummy brunch at the Huntley hotel.

 I can’t believe it’s taken me so long to plan a celebration like this one! It was totally my speed. 


The Getty Villa is much smaller than the Getty Museum, but it doesn’t disappoint. I’m really into just wandering and being curious. I liked the gardens outside, and the art replicas inside. 

I am unsure if all the art there is recreated or if some is actually original. 

About the food at the Huntley Hotel… Maybe lemon ricotta pancakes are why I’m vegetarian instead of vegan! They really were divine. 

It seemed like everyone really enjoyed their food!


Our seating had a lovely view and our server made sure to bring me a special treat! 


Look at the view in the restroom! Wow. 

So much fun and I felt so loved. If you liked my dress, I can do a separate post showing more detail. It’s the same one I wore for my updated head shots!
Xoxo,

Fifi 

Where I’ve Been & How to Deal with Grief, Anxiety and Depression

I took a break from business and social media for about two weeks and many of you have wondered why. First, let me say the concerned messages, snaps, emails and tweets mean so much to me. It is so easy to get caught up being a spectator on social media that we lose the intimacy and personal touch of real communication. Some of you are near, some are far– but always close to my heart. You’re my pals.
I took a break because I lost a family member, and I’m sure you will understand when I say– no one can really fully be prepared. It was sudden, and I just felt like a bunch of time was just snatched from me. I love my family dearly and I do spend a lot of time with them–but it’s never enough. I assumed I had time. Have you been there? You think of something a person you love would enjoy and you think “I’ll take them here one day” or “I’ll share this with them tomorrow”. You just never know how long you really have…
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What made this both easy and difficult at the same time was the fact that every single person I would normally go to for comfort was hurting just like I was. In this time we have leaned closer together, bearing one another up and showering each other with love. I have just felt like– this is private– this is a family thing and no one else will understand what I need right now.
Grieving is a process and there’s no set time for how long it will take for you to reach a point of closure. I at first felt shocked, then sad, then a deeper form of devastation. It happened just 5 days before my birthday, and when I thought of that I felt like not celebrating at all. My cousin who is also one of my best friends said, “No. You celebrate with your friends and you celebrate with us, your family. He would have wanted you to celebrate life. Especially at a time like this.” She was right.
It felt wonderful to be surrounded by friends, and my birthday fell on Easter this year so it also just felt like I was closer to God.
A few things I’ve learned about grieving, anxiety and depression that may help you or someone you know.
  1. Be honest. Don’t try to cover up the pain so much that you avoid it altogether. It isn’t healthy, and it doesn’t promote healing.
  2. Eat well. Our inclination may be for fast, easy, comforting foods– but just make sure they promote life. Bad food will sink you further into depression.
  3. Get out and enjoy nature. The day I walked to the beach and breathed in the salty sea air and watched the sunset, I felt so grateful and so alive.
  4. Seek therapy. There are counselors who can  help you work through your grief, depression or anxiety. You may not be able to simply “shake it off”.
  5. Sleep more.This can be a very exhausting time, and sleep is a way to repair and heal. It can help restore your immune system and clear your head as well.
  6. Know yourself. Do you need to be alone? Do you need to be around people? Don’t do it for others, do it for you. If you get around a crowd and that overwhelms you, leave. Don’t feel guilty about it.
  7. Tell the people who matter. Talk to your close friends and family, your boss, and whomever may be affected by your change of pace.
  8. Get lost in good music or a book. You don’t have to dwell on your troubles all day long. You’re allowed to escape as needed.
  9. Be around children. They are so sensitive, sweet, and full of joy. Being around my niece and nephew was awesome. Not that I’m comparing children to animals, but being around animals is also very soothing!
  10. There are no rules. Just remember– everyone responds differently. Don’t judge yourself!

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10 Reasons Why You Don’t Suck at Life

Hey healthy bunnies! 🐰 How is your week going? I have something to share with you– straight from the heart. 

Lately I’ve been feeling like I suck– at basically everything. I can’t seem to perform the way I expect and in many ways I can’t seem to perform the way others expect. Have you ever been there?
I got thinking: what would I tell a client, a friend, or my sisters?

The truth is, sometimes we look at one failure as a total failure at life, when in the grand scheme of things, this moment is no more than an opportunity to learn or overcome. 

 
I don’t know what you’re going through, but I can assure you, you don’t suck at life. Here’s why!

  

  1. You’re not finished. Maybe this moment isn’t going well, but you’re still breathing so you’re not done!
  2. You’re doing better than you think. A lot of times people who give us feedback, or even we who evaluate ourselves tend to focus on what needs to improve. Criticism as the sole focus makes it seem like we aren’t doing anything well, and it’s just not true. 
  3. Does calling yourself a failure help you not fail!? Don’t think so, so stop. 
  4. You’re valuable. You’re valuable to your environment, to people in your sphere, to those you have yet to meet, and most importantly– you’re valuable to God. 
  5. You haven’t failed, you just discovered one more way that doesn’t work. You’re that much closer!
  6. You’re distracted. Take time to evaluate yourself and your performance, but never so much time that you stop, quit, wallow or get off course. Maybe right now you’re distracted, and need to gain focus. That can feel like failure. 
  7. Maybe it’s not you that sucks– maybe it’s your circumstances. Stop claiming circumstances as your life! Circumstances are temporary. A sucky situation can make a great person. Develop character in this moment. 
  8. Are you being authentic? If you don’t take the courage to be who God designed you to be– the very reason you were born, you will never be successful. I’m serious. Think of tools– they have a specific and ordained purpose, and when used properly they work. When used for other purposes outside of why they were created, working properly is no longer a sure thing. Be you. 
  9. Reframe the story. A lot of times we say things that sound like “my life is in shambles” and that story we tell becomes the one we live. Tell the story you want to live!
  10. You. Don’t. Suck. You don’t suck, because that’s ridiculous. What kind of thing is that to say about a person like no other on earth before, and who will never be duplicated? What sort of thing is that to say about the next inventor, creator, teacher, lover, adventurer, inspirer, trail-blazer, or leader? It isn’t the sort of thing a great person says, and that’s just what you are. You’re unique, and great, and worth more than the bad day, week or year you may be having. 

  

 Change the way you view things. Change your attitude. Change the position of your faith.

 
You got this!

Xoxo

Fifi 

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5 Tips to Get Back on Track with Your 2016 Goals

I know what it is like to have huge goals set before me, and while I really want to accomplish them, I often get overwhelmed and don’t know where to begin. It is common around this time of year to either lose momentum or get sidetracked.

 

You set those goals for a reason, and I know you can get there with the right mindset, preparation, and planning.

 

I created this video to encourage you and help you get back to where you need to be.

I had a little help from my adorable niece who can be seen (and heard) in the video. She’s getting so big!

 

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Feel free to comment and share some of your 2016 goals!

xoxo,

Fifi

 

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Valentine’s Day & Why Sometimes I’m a TERRIBLE Vegetarian!

Hey healthy bunnies!

How are you and how is your week going? It’s Thursday so I think I’m finally safe from people asking “how was your Valentine’s Day??”  Awwwkward. Anyway, I had fun last weekend and wanted to share, plus explain why sometimes I’m not the model plant-based bunny you may think I am.

I went to Willie Jane on Valentine’s Day with a very close college friend who I was dying to play catchup with. I chose the restaurant via Yelp. Many times my friends trust me to make the decision because I’m a foodie and also usually the one with more dietary restrictions.

Willie Jane is what I consider to be typical American-style hipster. Seriously, that should be a cuisine category!  I don’t know why, but Southern food with a cool twist is just so hipster to me, and to prove my point further, it is nestled in the part of Venice which is like the hipster capital (hmm or maybe Silverlake is, I’ll have to fact check). In case you’re wondering, we weren’t given mason jars. haha

We started with biscuits and orange butter.


My friend chose the chickens and waffles. I love the homestyle touch of a patterned plate that looks like it could be from anyone’s grandma’s kitchen.

I had roasted fingerling potatoes, soft scrambled eggs, and grits. Here’s where I failed: I didn’t read the menu close enough and when they arrived, they turned out to be SHRIMP grits. There were no pieces of shrimp, but they were cooked with shrimp paste added.

At the point that I tasted them, I knew something was, well you know– fishy. That’s when I asked the waitress. I didn’t bother sending them back, though. This rarely happens to me so I went with the flow. Even though I told the waitress I was vegetarian, that means different things to different people. It was my job to ask the right questions. I’ve gotten maybe a bit too lax, I think. So for this meal, I ate what I could and made mental note to be more upfront and to ask better questions.

It was still a great meal! Don’t judge me.:-)

Next, we went to Toms, the shoes brand which has a trendy looking little coffee shop set up as well. Coffee and shoes?! Yes.

I got a matcha latte, because when in Hipsterville…

I was amazed that Toms has way more shoes than the typical slip ons (that kinda look like paper mocassins)! I got these cute peep-toe booties.

If you plan to grab a pair, they run about 1/2 size too big.

 
That’s it for now, but leave a comment below and let me know what you have planned for this coming weekend!

Xoxo

Fifi

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Review: Sun Basket’s Meal Delivery Service

Hi healthy bunnies!

 

I recently had the opportunity to work with Sun Basket (so this is a sponsored post). Sun Basket is a healthy meal kit service that delivers sustainably sourced organic ingredients and easy, delicious recipes for cooking at home.

 

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How it works: You choose from the menus one week ahead, and they have options for Paleo, vegetarian, gluten-free, and even breakfast.

As you all know, I am big on doing meal prep and really love the process of preparing my meals, but when I agreed to review this service I was skeptical. Whats the point of food delivery if it isn’t already made? Why not just google a recipe and head to the grocery store?

 

Once I received the first package, I realized this particular service is a game changer for  several reasons:

  • the ingredients are organic
  • the produce chosen is of the best choice
  • all herbs and spices are already measured
  • the recipes are fun and super easy to follow
  • there is a huge range of versatility in each recipe
  • all the nutrition info is provided
  • it forces people out of the routine of making the same few meals week after week
  • the portions are very big, so it’s possible to split it into even more meals

 

Now, some meals do take longer than others to prepare. Some only took around 10 minutes to prep, while others took 25. Quality meals take time, but if you’re looking for faster prep meals, you may need to choose your menu carefully for the week.

I chose the vegetarian option and really enjoyed all the meals. One meal was a veggie burger with the most incredible and vibrant toppings, paired with simple potato wedges.

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I used a lot less oil the recipe called for and the wedges were still very crispy and yummy.

 

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Another dish I really likes was the baked eggs with pistou sauce, a breakfast dish. So much flavor! I’ve never had pistou before this, but it is very similar to pesto sauce, without nuts. This was easy to make and very filling. Since I made a small salad to go with mine, it ended up making 3 meals rather than two.

 

I don’t like my eggs yolks runny, so that’s why this looks more like a frittata.

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What I also like is this service can be gifted to others. Though I made this for my normal meal prepping during the week, I was thinking of how awesome this food would  be for taking to a vacation rental.. Yummy restaurant quality food, made simply at home.

 

If you’re interested and want to try this service out, visit http://www.sunbasket.com/home.

Please note that at this time Sun Basket only delivers to California, Arizona, Oregon, Washington, Nevada, Colorado, Utah and Idaho at this time.

Day 7 of the Reset: Rest 

  

🙌 Last day of the challenge!

Day 7 of #reset2016: Rest. How do you rest? Show us how you unwind. 
I personally have a tough time sitting still. Though I know I need rest, I find myself feeling a little bit anxious because there are always things I can do. Lately I’ve adopted a more active resting approach so that I get rest, but my mind isn’t distracted or worried. Here’s my list of rest activities 😆
1. Getting lost in a fiction novel. 

2. Watching a tv show while doing an easy home task like folding laundry. 

3. Catching up with a friend or family member by phone or video chat.

4. Watching snapchat videos or reading my Twitter timeline. 🌾👀🌾

5. Home spa day– facial, manicure, tub soak. 

6. Going for a walk to the beach. 

7. Cooking. 

8. Finding a comfy spot and chilling out to good music. 

9. Prayer and meditation. 

10. Writing poetry, short stories, or more concepts for my next book. 
What do you do to rest? Post and tag @coachpsays and me on Instagram!
❤️