What is settling really, and why do we do it? Is it because we are lazy, or don’t feel good about ourselves? Is it because we have a lapse in judgment?
I think it is fair to say we have all made a choice in our lives at some point that we later know was not the best.
How can we make the best choices for ourselves with the given information we have?
In this episode, we get into honest reflection about settling, why we do it, and it’s effects
We’re getting very close to ushering in a new year, which is exciting. Many of us will set goals, but many of us will have forgotten about these goals even before next year is even halfway completed.
Why does this happen?
I believe one of the main problems with goals and new year’s resolutions, is the overwhelm from not having an action plan. People set goals such as “get more healthy” or “lose 15 pounds” or “get my career on track”, but with no action plan or steps, how can we get there—and how can we know if we even have arrived?
Instead of the simple goals themselves, it’s good for us to break things down into steps, habits and behaviors. Do you want to change your spending habits, eating habits, how you spend your time? Ultimately it is our habits that give us results one way or another.
To help you visualize and focus on behavior for success, I’ve created affirmations for a prosperous new year. I zero in on some of the behaviors that really lead to us living our best life—being accountable, being creative, being open to constructive criticism, and more.
Have you ever considered that the blessings you receive are also meant you shape you and grow you in an incredible way? I say this because, sometimes we pray for a thing and it comes sooner than we expect. Maybe if we are honest, we didn’t expect it to come at all. It could be a job, or love, or any other new opportunity. When it comes, how do we respond?
A lot of us have a hard time believing we deserve the things we pray for, and as a result we can end up forfeiting our blessings because we refuse them or simply cannot even see them at all.
In this episode, I explore a way to reframe the story so that we are can get unstuck and begin to enjoy the good things that come into our lives. I hope you enjoy!
As a little girl, I had very specific reasons for loving the fall season. Though I love mild weather, there was so much to love about the change of any season. I loved the sound of fallen leaves crunching under my feet as I skipped sidewalk squares on the way to school. I loved the bite in the air that caused me to have to consider one of the coats sitting in the back part of my closet. I loved the changing colors of foliage. Fall was also the time– with summer ending, that school would resume soon.
Thinking of the fall season makes me think of my mother’s rule– no new clothes until I had cleared out my closet of the ones I could no longer wear. This got me thinking– what things have not cleared from my life now, to make room for the things I desire most?
In this week’s podcast episode, I discuss the broader concept of “making room” and end with some wonderful affirmations as you become bolder and more clear about what it is you want.
We at times can find ourselves in a negative cycle, negative thought process, or just generally do not feel a sense of hope.
The beliefs that lead us to a sense of hopelessness are a part of the things we carry, metaphorically. Like a well-worn backpack filled with items that are personal to us, we often travel through life with beliefs, ideas, and convictions which weigh us down. Our belief system is meant to guide our actions and ideas– but at times, our beliefs can grab us and keep us unmoving, stuck, paralyzed, even by a narrative that may not even be based on truth.
So while we may not be able to accelerate our time of transition, in what ways can we change our perspective to give us a sense of stability or to have a grounding effect? We’ll discuss this in my latest episode, “The Things We Carry“.
This episode includes a visualization exercise that may help you see yourself setting aside anything that does not help you move forward on your journey in life.
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Personal development and entrepreneurship books are becoming increasingly popular. It seems like nearly everyone promises to have the key to success for business, or the key to life.
What I’ve found, is that many books say a lot of things that sound good, but they don’t provide realistic steps for achieving goals. As a result, we walk away feeling motivated momentarily, only to later be doubly disappointed by the sensation leaving, as well as the lack of an action plan.
What I love about the 10X Rule by Grant Cardone is that as soon as I read chapter one, I was bubbling with energy to get started on changing my strategy.
In this podcast episode, I share the concepts I learned, which have in just a month’s time increase sales for my business as well as viewers for my podcast.
I’m not sure if I’ve ever really considered myself to be a particularly disciplined, person. I’ve been called that many times over the course of my life, but I’ve never really….resonated with it. To me a disciplined person looks like someone extremely regimented and always on time, and super super organized….And, yes. Maybe it is those things.
But when I really think about what disciplined means to me, it has to do with setting goals, assigning tasks based on those goals, and then completion. So a person cannot merely be called disciplined because they are a dreamer, or even if they are super organized with their planner. It’s discipline when the action is carried out, andcarried out consistently. Generally, people who do this get results.
Having a bedtime, having a consistent schedule for meals, and being mindful of one’s digestive functions are all things parents are mindful of for their children.
Some of the things parents do for their children are actually paramount for adults, too.
A child benefits greatly and even thrives from a healthy routine, because it provides stability, and it also makes it obvious when things are not quite right, and may need further examination.
We too need the stability that comes from routine, especially with regards to sleep.
If you’re having trouble with sleep, there are a number of things you can do to get more sleep, and to get more sleep more often.
One really effective habit of mine is to set a bed time alarm. I have it set for about 20-30 minutes before I would like to be in bed, which alerts me to start shutting down what I am doing and getting prepared. If you have an iPhone, there is already an inherent feature that works this way for you when you set your bedtime alarm.
It’s also important to get back to sleep when you wake up in the middle of the night.
Our tendency is to reach for the phone, and either obsess over how late it is and how tired we will be in the morning, or to start browsing through social media apps. Neither are effective for settling in and resting. Try instead turning on ambient sound, deep breathing exercises, or making adjustments that help your body temperature (i.e. what you’re wearing, turning on a fan, trying a different blanket).
Sometimes after a very long day, we need a little help winding down.
I wrote this sleep story (mostly because my nephew requested it) with a full night’s rest in mind. The story will be fun to share with kids, but suitable for all ages.
Graduation season is a reminder for me that life has important times of great shift and transition. These times are meant to mature us, but they are difficult and uncomfortable.
I share 6 tips for shifting your mindset and easing your transition.
Keep things in perspective. We often fear one move or one choice will make or break our future, and it causes a dangerous paralysis. In reality, we are all who we are, and where we are due to a series of choices. We have the ability to change course, correct, and move in a new direction. So, we must move. Move knowing, that we don’t know all there is to know, till we are motion.
Be okay with making mistakes. The reason we sometimes feel full of promise in college, but terrified when we finish is because we stand to lose something or to make a mistake. What I need you to understand, is mistakes actually raise your potential. That is, if you learn from them. I find a person who has gone out and taken risks in life far more interesting than someone who has only done things they’re familiar with or what was expected of them. What you learn when you fail can sometimes teach you more than any theoretical knowledge you may have.