I first met Jill via Twitter through a mutual friend, and funny enough I was actually looking to interview her back then as well. I admired her work, and as a graduate student and budding entrepreneur– I wanted to gather as much information as possible before really launching The Divine Hostess. I was surprised that Jill could make any time to talk being married, a mother of 4 children ages 4 to 15, and a radio host who seems to always be in motion. She found the time for me, though and has in many ways been a mentor and great example to me more than she realizes. I hope you enjoy Jill’s interview and will support her wonderful site!
|Q1: You have such a unique job and it seems to suit you as a mom of 4 busy children. How did your job come about?||A1: Thank you. I guess that’s the way my mom parented me. She was never un-interested, but we had to be responsible and make our own choices and be independent thinkers. As a result, my parents definitely lived a life that was focused on having their own life– not just staring at kids once they had them and wondering “what next?” As for my job, when my husband and children and I moved to Connecticut in 2005 after living in Little Rock for 9 years, I felt alone and started writing a ‘blog’ — which was just an email to friends because i didn’t know how to set up a real blog– which grew. It then got a name (NotSoSoccermom) which describes the vibe perfectly and became a dotcom and led to my radio show and book (which I am currently editing).|
|Q2: You and your husband are so fit! What motivates you to stay active?A2: I never was thin growing up. I made cheerleading in high school, but was definitely the most ‘zaftig’ girl on the squad (it was the 80’s after all– even Cindy Crawford was a 4-6 back then and she’s a 0-2 now). Same with the collegiate dance team… When I graduated from college and was selling advertising at the radio station, I gained some weight and it was time to make (I designed and had custom made) my wedding dress. I thought, I need to have that dress be a little smaller so I went for a walk that night (I remember this vividly because my walking path was right by Kickapoo High School, Brad Pitt’s alma mater) and I’ve worked out every day since. I started walking. For a few years, when I officed from home, I ran (2x’s a day). Then it turned to a gym membership when I hurt my tailbone and couldn’t run or walk. From there, it was cross trainers, etc. I never did group fitness until one day in 2009 I had to film a Zumba class for a fellow online host who was doing a vlog. I started being a Zumba regular and became certified shortly thereafter.||
My husband has done 19 marathons. He was just in Boston on the tragic day and is safe as are our running friends, but we’re of course heartbroken. He started running when our oldest were 2 and 3 when he realized things like dinner hour and family time had to happen in the evenings. So he chose running to keep fit— actually to keep from being TOO thin as he has a bizarre metabolism. Ever since, he’s chosen to get up at 5am to get his run in. It’s his peace. Our kids know that sometime throughout the course of everyday, we’ll be getting a workout in. It’s not IF, it’s when. It’s easier to keep constant than go through huge phases and up and down fitness swings. Since my husband is in pretty incredible shape, I once was asked, “Do you workout all the time so your husband doesn’t get mad at you? Ya know, because he’s really fit.” My answer- NOPE. I’m all self-motivated. We both know that it helps our psyches, our pride in ourselves and each other and sets a great example for our kids.
He’s motivated by his next race and staying outstanding. I’m motivated by my jeans fitting and my quiet time (or not so quite time–music!) on the treadmill or at class or swinging a kettlebell. I have no problem running around town sweaty or borrowing someone’s machine if the gym is closed on a snow day. I once hauled a half-doped up 7 year old in to the gym from a dental apt and set her on a gym towel while I hit the machine. Some say that’s crazy and there’s no way to schedule going every day. I say it’s my priority and it’s my fun. And I know now it’s paid off, because my teenagers (girls 15 & 14) are proud– do we think they’d ever admit it? Lol!
| Q3: How do you find time to give each of your children and husband attention?
A3: It’s easy to give my husband attention because he’s with me all day everyday. We’re starting our own company (a staffing franchise) and we work side by side. He and I and our son (age 4) are at the house working from the desk all day Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays. Plus giving my husband attention is key to who I am, and really– the gist of the Not So Soccer Mom ‘brand’. We’ve always had to make our own way as far as social outings, never had family in any town we’ve lived. So finding babysitters was key. I’m not a real good sitter-arounder and I had faith my kids would not crumble if we — gasp– left their sides for a few hours and focused on each other. Over about 9 years my husband won 23 or so award trips. Never missed one. I always say, “I’ll find a sitter. I’ll find a competent caregiver.”
|Our marriage is, I feel, bizarrely strong and I attribute that to us making a focus on each other.
Of course our kids are key, too. To spend time with each is quite easy because they all have different ‘moments’. My two big kids are going to be in 10th and 9th grade in the fall, thus they’re hyper-scheduled. But they know time with siblings is key to us and really don’t beg to ‘go out’ on Fridays. As a matter of fact they LOVE when we go out for date night on Fridays and all four (girls 15,14 &11 and the boy 4) kick it around the house. They all hang together, no matter what ages or gender. My younger two are physically closer because of their schedules and age. We’re a pretty close family.
Thank you for showing interest in my family and me, Fifi. As you know I’m a big fan of everything YOU do and am honored to be a fellow blogger/ fitness fan and friend of yours!
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